A note on true love, dating with sex, feminism and mothers

Could it be possible that some younger people, the next generation, might turn back to finding partnerships – marriage at a time in life when it is easier to bond? To find “true” love? To come to believe in love and marriage again?

That they may turn away from the pernicious belief that having many relationships over a short period of time early in adulthood – is a good thing? Every person of age gets to make their own decisions on sex and marriage, but I believe that having lots of anonymized sex partners does not make for a happy life. Particularly for women, as discussed in the essay below.

I’m 30. The Sexual Revolution Shackled My Generation.

Sexual symmetry between men and women was, is, and always will be a lie.

An except:

And, above all, listen to your mother. In 2021, a TikTok video by a young American woman named Abby went viral. In the video, Abby tells the camera:

“I, like many other college students, am someone who is entangled in hook-up culture, and often hook-up culture makes it difficult for me to determine whether or not what I’m doing is good for me and kind to myself. Very often, as women, we are led astray from what we actually deserve. So here’s what I’ve been doing lately . . . ”

Then she pulls up on screen a series of childhood photos of herself and explains that the men she’s hooked up with in the past have often made her feel as though she’s undeserving, not only of love but also of basic respect. So she’s trying to remind herself of her worth as a person by playing the role of mother to her inner child. “Am I OK with that for her?” she asks tearfully, gesturing at her younger self in the photo. “Would I let her be a late-night, drunk second option? Would I let this happen to her?” She shakes her head, weeping. “From a third-person, caretaker point of view, I would never let any of this stuff happen to her.”

Abby is trying to mother herself, though she isn’t quite sure how to do it. And the thousands of young women in her replies are trying to do the same (“I’m sobbing”; “i rlly needed this, thank you”; “this just changed my life”). They’ve been denied the guidance of mothers, not because their actual mothers are unwilling to offer it, but because of a matricidal impulse in liberal feminism that cuts young women off from the “problematic” older generation. This means not only that they are cut off from the voices of experience, but—more importantly—they are also cut off from the person who loves them most in the world. Feminism needs to rediscover the mother, in every sense.

Until we do, each individual woman will have to learn on her own the lie of the promise of sexual liberation—the lie that tells us, as Andrea Dworkin phrased it, that “fucking per se is freedom per se.”

It was a lie all along. It’s time, at last, to say so.

The essay above argues that even young women are searching beyond feminism, beyond the cultural norms being promoted for their generation. That it is time for a change in society that puts many features of feminism, as well as traditional family values, in a place of prominence in the hearts and souls of young Americans.

Here is the thing. Morals and values matter. This is why so many people are leaving the Democratic party. Because the Democratic party has left them. The arm of the progressive party has come to dominate the ideology of the left – even “center-left.” There is no longer room for Democrats who hold traditional values.

These values that believe in family, freedom, a smaller safety net – where government is not intruding on their daily lives. Traditional values that respect human life, the role of the family.

Most people have MODERATE views. Most people in the USA still live and abide by Judeo-Christian beliefs – whether or not they go to church on Sunday.

Is there a home for such people in the left or right nexus of our political parties?

I believe that many of us are yearning for center ground. Traditional values.

We all want strong, healthy, morally grounded, stable families and lives. We want our families and communities to practice and respect a strong work ethic. We want a world for which entertainment isn’t the only thing that matters in their lives.

We don’t want purity tests on anti or pro abortion politics. We don’t want purity tests on transgenders, on sports teams, or purity tests on gender affirming surgeries for children. We want our children protected from overly sexualized and graphic content. We don’t want public health policies grounded in authoritarianism. We don’t want our government buckling under totalitarian globalists.

We don’t want black/white binary logic. The world is more complicated than that.

This is why the list of people who identify as “independents” keeps getting longer.

We want common sense policies and politics.

It is time for some real leaders to emerge to take us back to the traditional values that made this country great. Those values once resided in both parties. They need to return again.

We need leaders to guide our nation back to a middle of the road, a common sense world again.

This opinion piece below captures the feeling that the country is slipping into an authoritarian regime – run by the administrative state. Where censorship is a step away for anyone not hypnotized by the current propaganda.

All Republicans are now terrorists (Washington Times)

Democrats and the mainstream media have gone full Orwellian

Last week, Financial Times Associate Editor Edward Luce tweeted that Republicans are the most “dangerous” political force in the world, bar none. “I’ve covered extremism and violent ideologies around the world,” he said, and “I have never come across a political force more nihilistic, dangerous & contemptible than today’s Republicans. Nothing close.” Former CIA Director Michael Hayden chimed in immediately and said, “I agree.”

This past Tuesday, Democrat adviser Kurt Bardella called all Republicans a “domestic terrorist cell.” MSNBC’s Tiffany Cross agreed and said there should be no distinction between Republicans and “right-wing extremists.” At the same time, Peter Wehner, a contributing writer for The Atlantic, likened the Republican Party to a “dagger pointed at the throat of American democracy.” All this while the FBI Director Christopher Wray added that any American flying the Gadsden — “Don’t Tread On Me” — flag is suspect of violent extremism.

Left. Right. Blue. Red. It doesn’t matter. These kinds of statements from main-stream and state-sponsored media sources, as well as a former director of the CIA should cause everyone to pay attention. Labelling a large fraction of the US population as terrorists – is dehumanizing, but also allows for censoring, defaming and slandering tactics by the media and government.

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