Sex, Fertility, Birthing, Babies & Parenting

As women still in a transition for true equality, we need to learn what Abuse IS, so that we can identify it, label it, dismantle it, and avoid choosing a partner who will abuse us, be it emotional, verbal, physical abuse, or all three.

The book that answers the 20 questions that women most commonly ask about controlling or abusive relationship partners, including why he treats other people so much better than he treats you, how he came to be the way he is, why his good periods don’t last, and how to tell if he is really going to change or not.  It also explains what abuse actually IS, dispelling MANY myths about the psychology of abusers that will be astonishing and invaluable to all women.

  • Lundy Bancroft’s blog contains INCREDIBLE GEMS regarding the psychology of abusers:
  • More books written by Lundy Bancroft:
  • A page of additional resources put together by Lundy Bancroft.  Take note of Lundy’s reviews of some of the books, particularly when he says things like “The book contains a couple of the common misconceptions about the psychology of abusers” or he recommends a book highly, “though a couple of the myths slip in.”  There are many myths surround the psychology of an abuser, and you won’t find anyone better than Lundy to dispel these myths.
Before we create new life with a partner, we need to make sure we’re on the same page regarding issues that often break people apart after marriage.


Sexual Energy and Strength
  • Get some ideas from this list, including:
    • Get your body treated by a holistic, orthopedic ALF dentist.  These dentists are crossing the silos (dentistry and medicine) and going beyond into new fields to address breathing issues, and all other autonomic nervous system issues at their root.  The root is cranial structure/neural reflexes/skeletal alignment/airway, etc.
    • Eliminate EMF radiation sources in the home
    • Know when you’re fertile
    • Build up your nutrient stores to develop a healthy egg for ovulation
    • Be prepared with lots of natural folate, how to supplement properly
    • Optimize hormones
    • Replace fabric and foam products with safe altnernatives (clothing, sheets, blankets, mattress, furniture, curtains, etc)
    • Protect your yourself/your fetus from toxic chemicals that are designed to survive the laundry cycle
    • Support your body’s hormonal and nevous systems, by avoiding vaccines



Get some ideas from this list, including

  • Maintain nutrient stores to develop a healthy fetus
  • Protect your fetus from EMF radiation
  • Avoid miscarriage by avoiding vaccines
  • Follow your gut!!  Trust your body!!
  • Make sure all home fabric and foam products are safe (baby car seats, clothing, bedding, mattress, furniture, etc)
  • Find a good osteopath that knows how to treat newborns, and have them come to be present at the birth to treat the baby right away.



Get some ideas from this list, including

  • eating foods leading up to the birth which make brith easier, faster, and will allow you to get more dilation, leading to less tears.
  • getting into the right position, so that your pelvis opens more
  • saying no to premature cord clamping
  • creating a document stating that you don’t want the cord clamped prematurely, and that you don’t want vaccinations
  • invite your osteopath to be present at the birth, so he can treat any birth trauma right away in your baby.


Postpartum Care

Posture and alignment greatly affect the way we are able to engage muscles in our core.  Going through holistic dental treatment before pregnancy is a game changer for not only the health of the mother, but also the health of the child.  If you didn’t get an opportunity to do that before pregnancy, check out the Mutu System:  She focuses a lot on repairing diastasis recti.



  • Nourishment – Red raspberry leaf & yarrow (uterine tonic), alfalfa, nettle (calcium/magnesium), and peppermint, alfalfa & red clover (estrogen promoting), Oatstraw (nourishing), fennel seed & lemon balm & orange peel (carminative; aromatic), rose petals & lemon balm (lift spirits), hibiscus (vitamin C. flavorful, and aromatic), vitex (helps balance hormones), strawberry leaf, horsetail
  • Increase Milk SupplyRed Raspberry Leaf, Fennel Seed, Nettle Leaf, Fenugreek Seed, Dandelion Leaf & Blessed Thistle, Alfalfa, Oat Tops, Slipper Elm, Marshmallow root, Catnip Leaf, Chamomile *Avoid Sage (which could decreases lactation)


Reduce Swelling

Mothers on the GUH Facebook page recommend homeopathic arnica tablets.  It was suggested during labor as well to help decrease the chance of swelling after delivery, and about 12 hours after delivery.  these might work, or Hyland’s brand too.



add 1 cup of herbs to 2 quarts of boiling water. Remove water from heat and let sit for 20 minutes. Strain and add to a bath with Epsom salts

  • Comfrey Leaf
  • Lavender Flowers
  • Plantain Leaf
  • Red Raspberry Leaf
  • Yarrow Flower
  • Calendula Flowers
  • Shepherd’s Purse
  • Uva Ursi Leaf

Nipple Cream

protect the nipple from damage, but it also soothes and helps heal the skin if any cracking or blistering occur.

Natural Nipple Cream from

Scoop herbs into a glass canning jar and pour oil on top. Make sure there is at least one inch gap between the mixture and top of the jar. Screw lid on tightly.

Set out a medium size slow cooker and line the bottom with a thick hand towel. Place the jar inside and fill the slow cooker with water up to the level of the oil in the jar, but keep the water level below the lid.

Turn the slow cooker on the “warm” setting and leave it on for 3 to 5 days, partially covered. Add more water into the cooker when necessary.

After 3 to 5 days, remove the oil infusion from the cooker and let it cool a little. Strain the oil through a fine sieve and/or cheesecloth into a small stainless steel sauce pan. Squeeze with your hands or use the back of a spoon to release the finished oil. Throw the used herbs away.

Add beeswax and shea butter into the sauce pan and turn heat on low. Stir until wax and butter has melted. Pour the mixture into 4oz glass jars or 4oz tin cans. Allow them to cool completely before putting the lids on. Date and label the nipple cream. Keep them in a cool, dry and dark spot. Will keep for several months.

With the recipe above, you should be able to fill three or four 4oz tin cans or jars pretty easily. You will most likely only need one for yourself


Baby Care Tips

Get some ideas from this list, including

  • What to do if your baby can’t latch (breastfeed)
  • Formula alternatives
  • Protect your child from vaccines
  • Eliminate EMF radiation sources in the home
  • Choose baby clothes, bedding, mattresses, and car seats without bromide and other toxic chemicals
  • Protect your baby from absorbing toxic chemicals left on clothing and bedding from toxic laundry detergent.
  • How to change a diaper without subluxating the lumbodorsal junction of the spine.
  • Avoid hip dysplasia
  • Let your baby eat their own food
  • Reusable swim diapers or potty trainers
  • How to avoid the need for braces
  • Creative ways to save for your child’s college