Sex, Fertility, Birthing, Babies & Parenting

Align Values with Your Partner

Before we create new life with a partner, we need to make sure we’re on the same page regarding issues that often cause divorce, especially after children are born.

Gain Clarity

I believe many of our problems come from a lack of understanding about what leads to happiness, or what happiness is.  I believe that happiness is not a feeling, but rather, a state of peace that results when goodness is pursued.  Goodness, meaning…a moral code.

I think it is important to understand that even though we love another person, sometimes, that person is not right for us, or, sometimes, when either our heart is closed, or the other person’s heart is closed, we are not ready for marriage.

There is a great movie called Fireproof, made in 2008.  If you are confused about what to do – if you should stay with your partner, or end a relationship, watch this movie.  I guarantee there will be a moment during the movie, where you know in your heart exactly what you should do.  

Sometimes, there are men who have learned, usually at a young age to be abusive, especially toward their spouse/wife.  Women need to learn what abuse IS, so that it can be identified, labeled, and dismantled, so that women can make the right choices.

The book that answers the 20 questions that women most commonly ask about controlling or abusive relationship partners, including why he treats other people so much better than he treats you, how he came to be the way he is, why his good periods don’t last, and how to tell if he is really going to change or not.  It also explains what abuse actually IS, dispelling MANY myths about the psychology of abusers that will be astonishing and invaluable to all women.

  • Lundy Bancroft’s blog contains INCREDIBLE GEMS regarding the psychology of abusers:
  • More books written by Lundy Bancroft:
  • A page of additional resources put together by Lundy Bancroft.  Take note of Lundy’s reviews of some of the books, particularly when he says things like “The book contains a couple of the common misconceptions about the psychology of abusers” or he recommends a book highly, “though a couple of the myths slip in.”  There are many myths surround the psychology of an abuser, and you won’t find anyone better than Lundy to dispel these myths.

stick with your partner during the hard times

If you’re feeling that you’ve fallen out of love with your partner, try watching the movie Fireproof, and then try doing the 40-day “Love Dare”.  Find the book by Alex Kendrick and Stephen Kendrick here:

Sexual Energy and Strength


  • Get some ideas from this list, including:
    • Get your body treated by a holistic, orthopedic ALF dentist.  These dentists are crossing the silos (dentistry and medicine) and going beyond into new fields to address breathing issues, and all other autonomic nervous system issues at their root.  The root is cranial structure/neural reflexes/skeletal alignment/airway, etc.
    • Eliminate EMF radiation sources in the home
    • Know when you’re fertile
    • Build up your nutrient stores to develop a healthy egg for ovulation
    • Be prepared with lots of natural folate, how to supplement properly
    • Optimize hormones
    • Replace fabric and foam products with safe altnernatives (clothing, sheets, blankets, mattress, furniture, curtains, etc)
    • Protect your yourself/your fetus from toxic chemicals that are designed to survive the laundry cycle
    • Support your body’s hormonal and nevous systems, by avoiding vaccines


Get some ideas from this list, including

  • Maintain nutrient stores to develop a healthy fetus
  • Protect your fetus from EMF radiation
  • Avoid miscarriage by avoiding vaccines
  • Follow your gut!!  Trust your body!!
  • Make sure all home fabric and foam products are safe (baby car seats, clothing, bedding, mattress, furniture, etc)
  • Find a good osteopath that knows how to treat newborns, and have them come to be present at the birth to treat the baby right away.


Get some ideas from this list, including

  • eating foods leading up to the birth which make brith easier, faster, and will allow you to get more dilation, leading to less tears.
  • getting into the right position, so that your pelvis opens more
  • saying no to premature cord clamping
  • creating a document stating that you don’t want the cord clamped prematurely, and that you don’t want vaccinations
  • invite your osteopath to be present at the birth, so he can treat any birth trauma right away in your baby.

Postpartum Care

Get more info here, such as

  • Posture and alignment greatly affect the way we are able to engage muscles in our core; and therefore how we heal our midsection.
  • Teas for nourishment and milk supply
  • Reduce Swelling after delivery
  • Nipple Cream to protect the nipple from damage, but it also soothes and helps heal the skin if any cracking or blistering occur.

Baby Care Tips

Get some ideas from this list, including

  • What to do if your baby can’t latch (breastfeed)
  • Formula alternatives
  • Protect your child from vaccines
  • Eliminate EMF radiation sources in the home
  • Choose baby clothes, bedding, mattresses, and car seats without bromide and other toxic chemicals
  • Protect your baby from absorbing toxic chemicals left on clothing and bedding from toxic laundry detergent.
  • How to change a diaper without subluxating the lumbodorsal junction of the spine.
  • Avoid hip dysplasia
  • Let your baby eat their own food
  • Reusable swim diapers or potty trainers
  • How to avoid the need for braces
  • Creative ways to save for your child’s college